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Sept. 23, 2017 – Readings in Recovery: Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

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Saturday, Sept. 23, 2017

Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

No Place to Go

Love is supposed to flit about, here and there. Happily. And lightly. It’s also supposed to have a place to land. Love is supposed to reach out and check in: How’s the job? How’s your life? Wanna do lunch? Go for a walk? Wanna talk? Do you need help with this or that? Happy Birthday! Here’s a birthday cake, some presents, birthday wishes, a party hat. Yes, love is supposed to flit about, here and there, doing all these things, and more.

With addiction, love has no place to go. No place to land. My love, as a mother, has become untethered. So, in trying to make things right in my maternal world, I fuss, fix, and fume instead–forcing and faking a two-way relationship. I butt in and argue and wheel and deal and wheedle and enable and un-able and whine and beg. Love is supposed to flit about, here and there. Happily. And lightly. But there’s nowhere for my love to go. Or land. And so, I ache.

Grief is just love with no place to go.

Jamie Anderson

You are reading from the book:

Tending Dandelions by Sandra Swenson

Tending Dandelions © 2017 by Sandra Swenson

Sept. 23, 2017 – Readings in Recovery: A Day at a Time

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A Day at a Time

Saturday, Sept. 23, 2017

Reflection for the Day

On studying the Twelve Steps, many of the first members of The Program exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it.” “Do not be discouraged,” we’re told at meeting after meeting. “No one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines. The principles we have set down are guides to progress. We claim spiritual progress rather than spiritual perfection.”

Can I believe, in the words of Browning, that my business is not to remake myself, but to make the absolute best of what God made …?

Today I Pray

Even if I am an old hand at The Program, may I not forget that the Twelve Steps do not represent an achievement that can be checked off my “things-to-do” list. Instead, they are a striving for an ideal, a guide to getting there. May I keep my mind open to deepening interpretations of these principles.

Today I Will Remember

Progress rather than perfection.

Hazelden Foundation

Sept. 23, 2017 – Readings in Recovery: Twenty-Four Hours a Day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Saturday, Sept. 23, 2017

AA Thought for the Day

Step Twelve is, “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.” Note that the basis of our effectiveness in carrying the message to others is the reality of our own spiritual awakening. If we have not changed, we cannot be used to change others. To keep this program, we must pass it on to others. We cannot hoard it for ourselves. We may lose it unless we give it away. It cannot flow into us and stop; it must continue to flow into us as it flows out to others.

Am I always ready to give away what I have learned in AA?

Meditation for the Day

“Draw nigh unto God and He will draw nigh unto you.” When you are faced with a problem beyond your strength, you must turn to God by an act of faith. It is that turning to God in each trying situation that you must cultivate. The turning may be one of glad thankfulness for God’s grace in your life. Or your appeal to God may be a prayerful claiming of His strength to face a situation and finding that you have it when the time comes. Not only the power to face trials, but also the comfort and joy of God’s nearness and companionship are yours for the asking.

Prayer for the Day

I pray that I may try to draw near to God each day in prayer. I pray that I may feel His nearness and His strength in my life.

Hazelden Foundation

Sept. 23, 2017 – Readings in Recovery: Step by Step

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Step by Step

Saturday, Sept. 23, 2017

“For 18 years, from the age of 21 to 39, fear governed my life. By the time I was 30, I had found that alcohol dissolved fear. For a little while. In the end, I had two problems instead of one: fear and alcohol.” – Alcoholics Anonymous, 3rd Edition, 1976, “Personal Stories,” Ch 9 (“The Man Who Mastered Fear”), p 275.

Today, neither fear nor alcohol will be master because I understand now that both are choices – and I choose not to devote any part of today to either. Whether fear came first and triggered my drinking or if my drinking plunged me into fear of virtually everything is of no consequence anymore. Both feed each other, and my participation is required for the exchange to occur. Just as a toddler grows bored with crawling and pushes the challenge to stand on his own, so it is with me: I am tired and bored with my drinking, with fear and it pushing me to the bottle. The time has come to push the challenge to walk again on my own – in sobriety. AA is here to hold my hand. And our common journey continues. Step by step. – Chris M., 2017

Sept. 23, 2017 – Readings in Recovery: The Eye Opener

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The Eye Opener

Saturday, Sept. 23, 2017

In Step Twelve, we learn that we should “try to carry this message to alcoholics” but only after we have “had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps.”

Notice, please, that it does not say that we have an “understanding,” but it says “spiritual awakening.” It takes no English scholar to know the meaning of every one of those two hundred words. A child of ten can grasp what the words actually say, but it is only when we have had this spiritual experience can we understand their full significance.

Only when we have this spiritual experience do we fully possess the Program, and unless we possess it, it is certain that we cannot give it away.

Hazelden Foundation

Sept. 22, 2017 – Readings in Recovery: Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation

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Friday, Sept. 22, 2017

Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:

Listening and Sharing

Let us review what others have said about listening and sharing:

“To profit from good advice requires more wisdom than to give it.”
Churton Collins

“They that will not be counseled cannot be helped. If you do not hear reason, she will rap you on the knuckles.”
Benjamin Franklin

“Don’t give your advice before you are called upon.”

“If a man’s faith is unstable and his peace of mind troubled, his knowledge will not be perfect.”
Buddhist Proverb

“Let no man presume to give advice to others that he has not first lived successfully himself.”

“People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be – not what you nag them to be.”
S.N. Parker

“An open mind, like an open window, should be screened to keep the bugs out.”
Virginia Hutchinson

“Philosophy is a purely personal matter. A genuine philosopher’s credo is the outcome of a single complex personality; it cannot be transferred. No two persons, if sincere, can have the same philosophy.”
Havelock Ellis

Today I will not expect others to agree with my views. I will share and listen for what is good in others and myself. I will seek honesty and increased understanding from all my communications with others.

You are reading from the book:

The Reflecting Pond by Liane Cordes

The Reflecting Pond by Liane Cordes. © 1981 by Hazelden Foundation