Sunday, May 24, 2020
Today’s Gift from Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
Where there is great love, there are always wishes. — Willa Cather
We can always think of ways to improve our intimate partnership, but usually our best ideas are for changes in our partner. We wish we had a more generous attitude from our partner; we wish we had a more agreeable partner—someone who was more fun or who would take better care of his or her health—and we want more sexual pleasure. But these ideas are the easy ones to think of. The harder and more effective ideas are those that call for changes in ourselves.
We enter into a life partnership to enjoy the relationship. We take pleasure in each other’s lives, and we are on the same team. But we don’t walk in the same footsteps because we all need to stand on our own as adults. Intimacy is not the merging of personalities but the bridge between separate people. Once we have our adult separateness, we can be more intimate, more loving, and more generous with each other.
Today, I will pay more attention to the ways I can be a better partner.