Monday, Feb. 19, 2018
Today’s thought from the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation is:
I was talking to a friend about something I didn’t want to do but believed I needed to do anyway. I was dreading it and feeling irritable. Often when we talk like that, other people scowl and say, “Oh, don’t let shoulds control your life. If you don’t want to do it, don’t.”
But this man understood. “At the risk of sounding old-fashioned,” he said, “duty calls.”
What’s there to say about duty? It’s a job, for different reasons, that needs to be done – whether we really want to or feel like it.
I learned about duty when my children, Nichole and Shane, were born. A lot of things needed to be done to take good care of them, whether I felt like doing all of those things or not.
I learned throughout the years that even the most exciting jobs have uninteresting and sometimes distasteful duties. When I worked for a daily newspaper, I loved my job. I enjoyed covering front-page news. But many of the stories I was assigned to were duty stories.
Sometimes a relative needs help. A parent may get sick, grow old, or become vulnerable or infirm. While we don’t want to become duty-bound and strap our entire lives with shoulds, there are times in any relationship – family, romantic, or friend – when a code of honor rules and we do what we must.
“I believe we have deeper duties too,” a friend said. “If we’ve been given sobriety, spiritual growth, or gifts, I believe that it’s our duty to pass those gifts along and share them when we’re asked.”
Go ahead. Say arrrgh. Dread what you’re about to do. I know, there are more interesting and exciting things calling your name. But for a moment, can you put those things aside?
You are reading from the book:
52 Weeks of Conscious Contact by Melody Beattie
52 Weeks of Conscious Contact © 2003 by Melody Beattie